3. Technology - The less the better
While men are considered better at tech than women, it is also shown that men are unable to multitask.
More technology makes men unhappy.
So it must be kept to a minimum even if you work in this field. Have sound alerts for important events that can happen and need your action on and don't check your phone or PC all the time.
While in this tech era it's not possible to avoid it without affecting your income, just work on automating most of it.
Social media is also a large source of unhappiness. Facebook, twitter and chat programs should be used under the same principle as above, with alerts and only when needed.
At this point I am tempted to think that you shouldn't even have facebook or instagram type of social media unless you are using them to promote yourself or need a large amount of online friends for business purposes. Or if you are looking to pickup women using it.
If you use it just to check out which amazing looking cities your online buddies are going to today -> Big NO-NO
Sunday, April 22, 2018
Part 2
2. General lifestyle. Simplicity and close bonds with people nearby.
First part was easy to spot, this one is way tricky.
The less things owned the better it is. If you need to pack for 3 days when you go somewhere, not good.
When you travel or live somewhere -> the people around you and your connection with them are far more important than the place itself.
Guys living as students 4 in the same tiny room with very little money will be happier than a rich guy living near a beach but not connected to any people.
If your focus is to live on a beach in a nice island - for that to work you also need to focus on having close bonds with the people nearby, the beach and island are just bonuses.
Otherwise you'll be happier in a cold snowy place that meets the people criteria.
The bigger picture - Part 1
The following is not some inspirational spiritual mumbojumbo. It's an attempt to draw some programmer type patterns to life.
It's meant to be for a guy's life because I am a guy. Many of them won't work the same for women.
Based on my personal observation most simple people living in a peasant village are happier than the majority of men that have a ton of money.
Still, if you are aware of the happiness patterns, money are very useful as they can buy most of that.
It's very concerning that most of the older men I've spoken to were very unhappy with how they lived their life.
Going to outline this in terms of importance:
1. Relationship with women - close connection and freedom to do anything
If you are settling down with one and feel like you are on a leash you will be unhappy.
If you are screwing around with no relationship lasting for more than 1 month and not giving 2 cents about either of them-> surprise! you are also gonna be very unhappy.
I have quite a large sample for saying the above.
The important thing is to have a close connection with one/some of the partner(s). And to also feel free.
If you need to ask for permission to go out with buddies, or schedule a meeting with them like you schedule a dentist appointment 2 weeks in advance -> that is not good!
Ideal case is to have the freedom to go do anything with anyone while also having a close connection with your partner(s) and not needing to lie or explain yourself at any point.
Applying that to just buddies should be easy, if you have a hard time even doing that you clearly have a big problem.
If you get greedy and want to apply it to being free to see other women as well, it is very tricky. Having your cake and eating it too is what they call it and I haven't found a good solution to this yet either.
One partner for 80 years can work. I don't think it will work if you are purely monogamous for that whole time.
Changing your partner with someone new every 1 year can also work.
They have to meet the above important conditions: close connection and freedom to do anything.
Very important here is to also take alone time: go travel somewhere by yourself sometimes. Other times with another group that is not part of your partner's social circle.
It's meant to be for a guy's life because I am a guy. Many of them won't work the same for women.
Based on my personal observation most simple people living in a peasant village are happier than the majority of men that have a ton of money.
Still, if you are aware of the happiness patterns, money are very useful as they can buy most of that.
It's very concerning that most of the older men I've spoken to were very unhappy with how they lived their life.
Going to outline this in terms of importance:
1. Relationship with women - close connection and freedom to do anything
If you are settling down with one and feel like you are on a leash you will be unhappy.
If you are screwing around with no relationship lasting for more than 1 month and not giving 2 cents about either of them-> surprise! you are also gonna be very unhappy.
I have quite a large sample for saying the above.
The important thing is to have a close connection with one/some of the partner(s). And to also feel free.
If you need to ask for permission to go out with buddies, or schedule a meeting with them like you schedule a dentist appointment 2 weeks in advance -> that is not good!
Ideal case is to have the freedom to go do anything with anyone while also having a close connection with your partner(s) and not needing to lie or explain yourself at any point.
Applying that to just buddies should be easy, if you have a hard time even doing that you clearly have a big problem.
If you get greedy and want to apply it to being free to see other women as well, it is very tricky. Having your cake and eating it too is what they call it and I haven't found a good solution to this yet either.
One partner for 80 years can work. I don't think it will work if you are purely monogamous for that whole time.
Changing your partner with someone new every 1 year can also work.
They have to meet the above important conditions: close connection and freedom to do anything.
Very important here is to also take alone time: go travel somewhere by yourself sometimes. Other times with another group that is not part of your partner's social circle.
Friday, June 23, 2017
Benidorm review
I only stayed 2 days here and the hotel that I picked(the only one that was available at that time that allowed dogs) was full of old people.
I'm not even exaggerating when I say that my parents would be younger than 95% of the people there.
Friday, April 14, 2017
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
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